"The secret to change is to focus all of your energy not on fighting the old, but on building the new.”
~ SocratesHi. I’m Paula.
I have lived a rich full life thus far in my 50+ years which includes intense love and joy and heartbreaking losses. These loves include my husband, children and extended family, my pets, my soul-nurturing friends, my first career in special education and teaching, my love of painting, my love of nature and being outdoors, my love of travel, my love of learning and growth, my love of coaching, and above all my faith.
My personal losses include divorce, several long distance moves, post-partum depression, loss/change of health, tragic loss of a dear friend, illness and death of my father, loss of trust with relationships, loss of career/financial independence when I began to stay home with our children, loss of many beloved pets, and a variety of other heartbreaks.
While I wasn’t always confident during “the storm of grief” that I would come out in one piece on the other side, I can now reflect on the lost relationships and situations through a different lens. After working toward completion of the pain of these losses, I was then able to value the learning and growth I gained. I now can recall the positive memories that were previously hidden in the shadow of pain. This did not happen overnight and without intention, but it has enabled me to love more deeply and completely and support others. It was definitely worth the work.
This is my soul work.
I so look forward to sharing it with you.
Maintaining the capacity to feel consuming grief, pain, and loss enables me to embrace love, joy, hope, and beauty in their entirety. In order to let them all in, my whole heart must remain open.
“I have experienced a lot of loss and trauma in my life and I knew there were areas in my past that I needed to work through and pain I needed to heal from. As scary and nerve racking as it was, Paula helped me work through these areas and made me realize that I am more than capable of moving past the pain and hurt I’ve carried on my shoulders for all these years. In this 8 week program I was able to forgive people in my life that I never imagined I would have the courage to do. Paula helped me understand that forgiveness doesn’t mean giving power back to the person that hurt you. It means setting yourself free from the pain they’ve caused you. I have learned so many incredible tools from Paula that I know will be so useful as I get older! I feel so fortunate to have been able to work with her!”